I know why I don't wear a lot of bling. It's for the same reason that I don't tend to favor "blingy" tack for my horses. You're going to wonder at the sense of my rationale, but here it is: I am a very confident person.
And before I offend anyone, that is NOT to say that it is unconfident people who wear bling. It's just why I don't need to/want to. Great. Now everyone is offended! Let me explain.
I've always been very independent. I've never really followed fads, and in fact, I sometimes find myself ahead of trends. I am okay in my own skin and don't need anyone else's approval to make me feel better about myself; I do that on my own. And while I may be very hard on myself, I know what I know, and I rarely second guess myself.
As an aside, I think being responsible for one's own happiness is the thing that makes marriages work. We each need to be responsible for our own self-worth and happiness; no one can do that for you. My husband and I have been together for more than 23 years, married for 19½. We're very happy together, but we're also happy doing our own things. And I am sure he's a bit relieved that I don't need much bling; it's cheaper for him!
All of that is to say that I don't need to draw attention to myself to feel "recognized." When I am good at something, I am happy enough if I know it, and I don't feel as though I need everyone else to know it, too. My car is the color of asphalt with no bumper stickers. I simply don't need to be noticed. And frankly, being noticed is sometimes embarrassing. So I don't wear much bling.
When it comes to my horses, bling makes me a bit uncomfortable because for me it says, Look at us; we're fabulous, (or at least we think are). I am hesitant to use bling on my boys because I don't want people to think that I think we are so great that we need to be in the spotlight. The funny thing is that when I see other riders using bling on their horses, I simply admire how pretty it looks, but it doesn't say anything to me, and it certainly doesn't shout, WOW, YOU MUST BE AWESOME! It's just pretty.