From Endurance to Dressage
How to Tie a Stock Tie
Um … not really.
I have no idea how to tie a stock tie which is really odd for someone who has shown at more than 30 rated shows! How is that possible you ask? Velcro. Yup. I have two very lovely ties that simply velcro around the neck. One is not so lovely any more as it's been through several show seasons, but the other is quite nice and looks very good under my coat.
See? The tie looks quite nice and no one can even tell that it's the dorky equivalent of a clip on. Until I take my coat off. Then I am missing that lovely splay of folds and fabric that are just so quintessential dressage.
So a few weeks ago I ordered the tie below. Hmm … was my reaction. I ordered a medium, but I think it was too big. It just didn't hang quite right. It could also be that I am a bit of an idiot and can't even make a ready-tied stock tie work.
And then came the Blogger Gift Exchange. I decided that maybe someone else could pick out a stock tie that I might like so I put a tie on my wish list. Many thanks to Appy Does Dressage for picking out a tie that will actually work! (With some practice, I am sure.)
Even though Hubby was hungry and I was supposed to be cooking dinner, I pulled out the tie (it had just been delivered) and the directions and set to work tying my very first big girl tie. Some time later, I realized that hubby already had dinner going and the tie was nowhere near "tied."
I finally gave up and asked Hubby for help. He put the tie on himself (it was really quite funny) and showed me how a man ties a business suit tie (quite sexy to watch in my opinion). Part way through his demonstration, I explained that while the first part looked right, we were missing a step.
He then proceeded to study the directions and attempted to tie the tie for me. He finally admitted that the directions were screwy and went back to cooking dinner while I got on YouTube to find a tutorial on stock ties.
There are many videos from which to choose, so I picked one at random and tried to follow along. Hubby was watching over my shoulder offering suggestions. Right away we realized that we had been missing a crucial step; the hole in the center of the tie has a purpose. Oops. Once we figured out how to run the long end through the hole and then back down, the tie started to make a lot more sense!
We rewound the video that shows the first knot at least a dozen times. Hubby finally figured out what the girl was doing and showed me. After that however, we had to rewind over and over to get the next part. I have to give Hubs a ton of credit. He has never, ever in his life seen a stock tie, so he didn't even know what the finished product was supposed to look like, but even so, he was able to figure out the second knot.
I love the tie, and I am thrilled with it, but I need to spend a lot of time practicing that knot. I can't wait to actually wear it this next show season.
But seriously people, how embarrassing is it to have your husband explain how to tie a stock tie?
12/29/2013 12:42:36 am
I still wear the "clip on" I have not found the guts to even try a "real" tie yet....Maybe next year :-) Your tie looks amazing!
12/29/2013 01:26:18 am
Thanks, Sandra. That tie is from Dressage Extensions, and I REALLY like it. It is so pretty up close. :0)
12/29/2013 01:03:33 am
No, thank you! I'll stick to my velcro. ;)
12/29/2013 01:27:44 am
I do prefer the velcro; it doesn't need to be nearly as snug, but I wanted to at least have one to try out. Isn't the point of dressage to be stiff and uncomfortable while we ask our horses to relax and swing? ;)
12/29/2013 01:14:13 am
Tying a stock tie is over rated! I tied my own for years, finally caved and bought a pre tied. Heaven!
12/29/2013 01:29:09 am
I will probably use the velcro one most of the time, but like I said to Carly, it's nice to be able to follow tradition at least occasionally. :0)
12/30/2013 08:17:16 am
Whatever gets the job done, huh? :0)
12/30/2013 08:18:48 am
That's the video we watched, Sarah. :0)
12/30/2013 08:21:04 am
No dressage is fake, Jen! And just wait, you and Connor will be needing those high scores to go with those tougher movements as you get to bigger and bigger jumps!
1/2/2014 10:01:29 pm
Yeah, sorry. Going to have to stick with my pretied one myself! Stick that bad boy on the velcro neck loop and I am good to go. I have a "normal" stock tie too and didn't know the hole had a purpose. Hmm, maybe that is why I never got it to work? Now you have to do a step-by-step demo!
1/2/2014 10:19:46 pm
Eventiontv.com has a good video tutorial. I'll use this tie for sure, but I am definitely keeping my velcro ties handy. :0)
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About the Writer and Rider
I am a lifelong rider.
I began endurance riding in 1996 where I ultimately completed five, one-day 100 mile races, the 200-mile Death Valley Encounter, and numerous other 50, 65, and 75 mile races. I began showing dressage in 2010.
Welcome to my dressage journey.
About Speedy G
Speedy went from endurance horse to dressage horse. After helping me earn a USDF Bronze medal in the summer of 2020, he is now semi-retired. Speedy is a 2004, 15'1 hand, purebred Arabian gelding. His Arabian Horse Registry name is G Ima Starr FA.
Izzy was started as a four-year old and then spent the next 18 months in pasture growing up. I bought him as a six-year old, and together, we are showing at the lower levels. He is a 2008, 16'3 hand warmblood gelding. His Rheinland Pfalz-saar International (RPSI) name is Imperioso.
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