Imagine my relief to finally feel what riding with your seat means, or doesn't mean actually. I took it to be such a literal thing: I envisioned it to be sort of like using a hula hoop. Stop laughing. I am serious. I really thought that if you were using your seat correctly, it meant your two seat bones, hips, and belly button alone were doing all the work. That's it. Although, I suppose that a highly skilled horse and rider team might only be using those body parts ... But I doubt it.
During the last few lessons with JL, I've been a bit embarrassed at how sore I was during, and just after, each ride. I ride all the time. I am easily on a horse seven times during the week. How could I be sore? During Tuesday's lesson, the answer finally came to me. I have started to use my seat. That AHA! was quickly followed with another AHA! Riding with my seat is NOT hula hooping. I mentioned my new found AHA! to JL as I noticed that my inner thighs were on fire. Yes, she confirmed. You are no longer riding with your hands. Your horse is nicely between your legs and you are using your seat to move him. Oh ...
And with that, I got it. Riding with your seat means from your feet all the way up your torso to your shoulder blades. Before ... that would be in the time before meeting JL ... I basically rode with my hands and heels. Hands were for whoa!, and heels were for go! I am not saying there's anything wrong with that. But it's certainly not how to ride an upper level dressage test. Or even a lower level dressage test. It won't get you a soft and round horse. And it won't give you balance and beauty.
Believe me when I say that sharing these little epiphanies with all of you is the height of humiliation and only serves to reveal my many, many (riding) inadequecies. But I know that somewhere out there in the world, another rider is nodding her head and thinking the same thing ... Oh, now I get it! That's why I share.